Heart of the House
Musings from the CEO’s Desk
The temptation to give up is a common one, and nobody is exempt. For most of us, failure isn’t something we can handle gracefully. And even though we know it’s a common human condition, we’re somehow always surprised when it happens to us. A few famous quotes that I have tacked on my wall remind me that loss of hope is temporary and giving up is not an option in my life:
1. “Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying ‘I will try again tomorrow.”
~Mary Anne Radmacher~
2. “Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.”
3. “Failure is only the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.”
4. “Ask yourself this question: ‘Will this matter a year from now?'”
~Richard Carlson~ (American psychotherapist and author of Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff)
5. “As I look back on my life, I realize that every time I thought I was being rejected from something good, I was actually being redirected to something better.”
~Dr. Steve Maraboli~
6. “Perseverance is the hard work you do after you get tired of doing the hard work you already did.”
7. “Develop success from failures. Discouragement and failure are two of the surest stepping stones to success.”
8. “It always seems impossible until it’s done.”
9. “Success is not final, failure is not fatal: It is the courage to continue that counts.”
I don’t know about you. But when things seem to be difficult and the dream seems more impossible than it did a year ago, the fact that these well-known people persevered and influenced so many generations encourages me to keep going. We all tend to have short term memory loss when we face struggles. I have learnt to keep journals of God’s faithfulness because they have often been all I have to hold on to when the next hurdle looms. If He said it, He will do it. His timing is simply not the same as my own and as I put my foot forward another step, I know that He will fulfil all that He has said He will. This to me is success – to persevere through the seemingly impossible, only to discover that miracles are waiting within reach.
CEO Destiny Haven
Give, love, trust and listen but learn to remain your authentic self in the process. Too many will seek to tell you who you are – as if they know? Others will tell you how you should be – as if they know? Know yourself and accept your unique beauty as a person of worth and intrinsic value and fill your life with those who let you be your self.
CEO Destiny Haven
Elizabeth Edwards states, “Resilience is accepting your new reality, even if it’s different than the one you had before. You can fight it, you can do nothing but scream about what you’ve lost, or you can accept it and try to put together something that is great”. All of humanity has entered a season where, although everything feels strange and scary, it’s also a rare opportunity for us all to reflect and discover who we are without the usual routines. For some of us, life has become more intense – especially for those on the frontlines. Others of us don’t know who we are without constant action, yet, we find ourselves forced into staying in one place, often isolated from loved ones. For some, there are opportunities or creativity we’ve waited forever to explore and now we have the time to discover. We are all having to lean into new ways to live, think, feel and be. And maybe in the challenge, there is also a gift. We have to find ways of looking after our minds, bodies and emotions, and manage our finances in this global crisis. I pray that through it all we don’t become so gripped by fear that our lives are crippled by smallness; that we can come to more deeply know that we are all united in this terrible mess. May we stun ourselves as we discover how brilliantly creative we are, and how resilient the human spirit is. May we through it all, know that God has not abandoned us; that His love is constant and ever pursuing the human heart. I’m grateful that our Diamonds are very shielded from the media frenzy every day played out on TVs and in Newspapers. We are safe and trying to ensure life here goes on as usual. As humans united through this tragedy, we all have to find ways to be patient and get to the end. None of this will be easy but we can all emerge stronger with stories of resilience and courage to share for years to come.
CEO Destiny Haven
Everywhere we go, all around us people seem to be gripped with fear. A dear friend had a neighbour turn up at her door, as she reached out to greet him he backed up and turned his elbow her way. The check-out woman was hand sanitising after every customer, a close friend refused my reach for a hug, people pushing others out of the way to grab toilet paper and serviettes, one almost knocking over an elderly woman. These are all examples of my increasing shock as the world seems to be going mad. I’ve watched a few movies in the past about plagues or disasters that almost ended the world and naively believed these to be far-fetched. According to a report I read, 291,000 to 646,000 people die from the common flu each year and yet the current virus is paralysing a world with fear. It is so easy to allow our minds and hearts fill up with fear in the midst of crisis and difficulty. It makes humanity hateful, greedy, selfish and even more self-focussed. Let us be a people who care for each other and live through this crisis reflecting compassion and faith. We cannot change the outcome. I do not suggest we do not be wise, but I do suggest that we choose not to be overtaken with irrational fear and reflect the belief that God is still in control. I echo Ram Dass’s words, “If you want to cure the world, don’t emanate fear – emanate love”.
The Diamonds will tell you that I constantly speak about choices. This quote highlights such an important perspective. How we prepare ourselves for every day shapes our experiences. Even if we don’t consciously think about it, we make a choice when we get out of bed how we will embrace the day and it is all in the attitude we have. We CHOOSE our attitude – it doesn’t choose us. We all navigate many difficult things in life from health, to grief or some other struggle. We can choose defeat, negativity, whinge and whine or face these difficulties with hope and giving each day our best. Even when things don’t always turn out the way we hope, a grateful and positive attitude will help us cope better with disappointments. Choosing your attitude doesn’t mean life is mistake and problem free or that life will be disappointment and pain free. However, a right attitude helps us navigate life’s ups and downs and also determines how everything unfolds. We’ve all been around people who grumble their way through their days from the moment their feet hit the floor. Attitude is contagious, both affecting as well as inspiring others around us. No one can choose your attitude but you. I want my life to exude love for life, purpose, meaning, curiosity, creativity and enthusiasm. We all have the capacity to choose to influence those around us positively. Choice is a gift we all have every single day. I choose to have an attitude of that will influence and hopefully inspire others to do the same.
CEO Destiny Haven