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Dream BIG, crazy, impossible dreams!

I have always chosen to live my life releasing any regrets from past failures and living excited for the future. Our vision at Destiny is to help women step into their own unique destinies, empowering them to truly shine. To do that you have to accept that you can’t change your past but whatever your experience, nothing has the power to determine the future unless you give it power! We must become people who dream big, crazy, impossible dreams for the future; dreams only God could ever bring to pass. My personal motto has always been, “If I can achieve the dream myself, then my dream is way too small.” So, dream as if there are no limitations and see how the impossible can become the possible!

Janine Epere

CEO Destiny Haven

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Embracing the Beauty of Your Uniqueness…

The world is constantly telling us who we should be, and what will bring us fulfilment. I spent many long years feeling uncomfortably different, out of place, like I didn’t fit in and struggling to find meaning in things that seemed to captivate others but left me cold. I tried hard to belong, fighting a constant inner struggle. I was creative, gifted and smart but lived behind a veneer of false confidence and multi-masks. If you have never related, then you are a rare soul and you can stop reading now! Our society unfortunately encourages us to look outside ourselves for happiness, striving to make enough money, doing everything to stay looking young (rather than honouring age and wisdom), seeking approval from others to feel valued, hoping a relationship will give us self-worth and the list goes on. Most adults if they are honest, have at some time known the occasional feeling of being not what they pretend to be. We settle easily for pretence, our authentic selves seeming illusory. How often we ignore or dismiss our own value because our insecure desire to belong has caused us to seek acceptance from others by conforming to what we think will make us popular.

We too often underestimate our worth, neglecting to understand that beneath the roles and masks lies a self as unique as a snowflake. There will never be another person on this planet like us, and by failing to honour what makes us unique, we deny the gift of the beautiful, distinctive life God has entrusted us with. God is a brilliant creator and He only makes originals. Ephesians 2:10 says we are works of art! True fulfilment comes by connecting inward, learning self-love and understanding and receiving the incredible love of God. We all have a passion – something that makes us light up inside. Maybe you’ve squashed your uniqueness for so long you struggle to find your passion and your truth.

Embracing the beauty of my uniqueness didn’t happen overnight – it has been something I’ve had to learn over the years as I have embraced the woman God created me to be. When I ceased to waste energy trying to belong or be like someone else? When I stopped envying what someone else had that I didn’t? I could then discover and embrace being my own unique self and that was life-changing. I have spent many years helping people discover their worth and one thing I know for certain. If you don’t embrace your uniqueness – you will spend your entire life striving to impossibly become someone else. And that would be a tragedy. Embrace your authenticity, learn to appreciate your uniqueness and have the courage to express and share that magnificence with the world. The world doesn’t need another dimmed light of sameness. It needs your brilliant “you” to shine!

Janine Epere

CEO Destiny Haven

Our Unique Purpose

I believe we all have a unique purpose for being on this planet. We have all heard this soo many times. What does this actually mean for you? We often spend so much time comparing ourselves to others in terms of talents, giftings, resources, and looks that we miss stepping into our own uniqueness. Sure, some people seem to have been given multiple talents but no matter if you have one or ten, we are all responsible to use them to reach our full potential. Jesus spoke of this in Matthew 25:14-30. All of us have been given passion that will fulfil our lives even if our pasts have squashed this passion from us. Are you actively searching for opportunities to use the gifts already given you? Or are you spending most of your time comparing yourself to others, crippled by the past, thereby never developing the gifts God has given you? Our purpose isn’t always the most clear-cut path laid before us; Sometimes we need to dig and bloom where we are planted for a while. It is not easy, but actively searching for opportunities to use what you HAVE NOW is how you step into your destiny. As you actively and passionately serve others you will be surprised at how things begin to become clearer. What do you love doing? What do people often ask you to do for them? What do respected leaders recognise in you? These are the questions that will get you headed in the right direction. Sitting and gazing at those around will always keep you crippled and feeling less-than. Stop the comparison game and be yourself. Christine Caine wrote, “To step into tomorrow’s possibilities you must let go of yesterday’s realities. Be careful of your choices between what was, is and will be. It is very hard to fully step into your destiny while you are holding onto your history”. Deal with the past and let it go; Use what you know you DO have to serve others. Blooming where you are planted causes doors to open you never knew existed and brings peace and contentment into your life.

Janine Epere

CEO Destiny Haven

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Dream as if there are NO Limitations!

I have always chosen to live my life by releasing any regrets from past failures and living excited for the future. Our vision at Destiny is to help women step into their own unique destinies, empowering them to truly shine. To do that we have to accept that God can’t change your past but whatever your experience, nothing has the power to determine the future unless we give it power! We must become people who dream big, crazy, impossible dreams for the future; dreams only God could ever bring to pass. My personal motto has always been, “If I can achieve the dream myself, then my dream is way too small” So dream as if there are limitations and see how the impossible becomes possible!

Janine Epere

CEO Destiny Haven

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The Impact of Our Attitude

We probably don’t fully realise how impacting our attitudes are on those around us. Being around a negative person can make you feel grumpy. Certain cheerful people automatically make us feel brighter. It’s so important to surround ourselves with people who uplift and encourage positive attitude. Charles Swindoll said, “I am convinced life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it”. If 90% of life is how we react to circumstances, issues, troubles and relationships, it makes sense that those around us would be affected. Sometimes we can’t help how we feel, but we can choose how to handle ourselves so that we don’t take our mood out on others. When we are upset, angry or feeling down, we can still treat people with kindness and respect. I believe the most significant decision we can make daily is to choose our attitude. Attitudes are an outward display of what’s taking place in our hearts. When our hearts focus on the right place, our attitudes will too. I’m sad to say I can be extremely impatient (especially in cafes and check out queues). However, I never fail to notice that when I calm myself and smile and ask the waitress or check out person how they are with a smile instead of tapping on the table? A person’s whole demeanour will change. The only thing we have to lose by choosing a positive attitude is a negative one! When our attitudes are right, no challenge is too great and no dream too extreme.

Janine Epere

CEO Destiny Haven

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