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Every Encounter With Others Leaves an Aroma

Every day we have multiple opportunities to show kindness to those around us. I’ve just returned from the ISAAC addictions conference in Kathmandu attended by people from many nations. It is always humbling to visit places where people have so little and yet they are so grateful for what they DO have. They smile often and they share freely. All those at the conference have dedicated their lives to helping others find freedom from addiction, as they themselves have been set free. I was reminded as I stepped off the plane in Australia of the incredible privilege we have to live in a country rich in resources and government help; where medical assistance is available to ALL without discrimination and yet, so many complain about inconsequential things. Kindness is not difficult and yet we live in a society so self-absorbed and “me” focused that we have often lost the ability to REALLY see people and take the time to encourage and invest in them when they need time and help. Imagine how different our world would be if we all treated others as we would like to be treated. Let’s choose to do all we can to make those around us feel special by the way we behave and speak to them. As Maya Angelou states, “People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel”. Every encounter with others leaves an aroma. May we seek to carry sweetness in a world where there is so much bitterness.

Janine Epere

CEO Destiny Haven

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Accepting What Is and Let Go of What Was

Sitting at the airport after flight delay of 7 hours, leaving a bag behind that had to be taxied to me and wondering if I will ever get on the plane. I pondered why all these years later, I live my life with a deep, continuing desire to invest in helping others reach their full potential. One of the most important things I was reminded of today is how much my life used to be governed by the voice of the inner critic! I spent so many years subconsciously belittling myself, telling myself I wasn’t enough and trying to fit in, to be less sensitive and needy, less flawed. Less ME! Maybe you can relate – feeling broken we strive to have others like us, to make a good impression, to be seen as loveable and worthy. It took me so long to realise my aching heart needed to be healed and I needed to choose to silence the voice inside that had been there since I was a child telling me I just didn’t measure up. It is because I spent time facing my past and making decisions to choose what I now think and what I believe. I now spend my life encouraging others to choose to believe they are more than enough, exactly as they are. It is liberating to live accepting that some may not get you, or be pleased by you and that is ok. To know we are loved by the God of the universe and to understand loving ourselves is critical to being able to truly, selflessly love others is life-changing. Yes, you are indeed worthy and your ideas and dreams are worthy. Your feelings are worthy and your needs are worthy but not needing validation from others frees you to love your truth even if it means you walk a road less travelled for a season or many. The real battle is always in our mind but we can choose to reshape our thoughts and live in the moment, choosing to believe truth. You may have been broken down by abuse, rejection or tragedy but YOU are not broken. So don’t let your mind get the best of you by continuing to listen to the inner critic. Choose to believe every single day is a gift and learn to meet your own needs, honouring your feelings and emotions while living with awareness of the beauty in others. Choose to encourage those you influence to silence that critic too!

Janine Epere

CEO Destiny Haven

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Our Choices Matter

Ah! This quote reminds me that nothing is so difficult that I can’t find it within myself to choose to be at peace. To choose to make the most of every single day; to choose to influence others for good and to help them believe that change and impossible dreams are achievable. Nothing is impossible!

Janine Epere

CEO Destiny Haven

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Dream BIG, crazy, impossible dreams!

I have always chosen to live my life releasing any regrets from past failures and living excited for the future. Our vision at Destiny is to help women step into their own unique destinies, empowering them to truly shine. To do that you have to accept that you can’t change your past but whatever your experience, nothing has the power to determine the future unless you give it power! We must become people who dream big, crazy, impossible dreams for the future; dreams only God could ever bring to pass. My personal motto has always been, “If I can achieve the dream myself, then my dream is way too small.” So, dream as if there are no limitations and see how the impossible can become the possible!

Janine Epere

CEO Destiny Haven

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Embracing the Beauty of Your Uniqueness…

The world is constantly telling us who we should be, and what will bring us fulfilment. I spent many long years feeling uncomfortably different, out of place, like I didn’t fit in and struggling to find meaning in things that seemed to captivate others but left me cold. I tried hard to belong, fighting a constant inner struggle. I was creative, gifted and smart but lived behind a veneer of false confidence and multi-masks. If you have never related, then you are a rare soul and you can stop reading now! Our society unfortunately encourages us to look outside ourselves for happiness, striving to make enough money, doing everything to stay looking young (rather than honouring age and wisdom), seeking approval from others to feel valued, hoping a relationship will give us self-worth and the list goes on. Most adults if they are honest, have at some time known the occasional feeling of being not what they pretend to be. We settle easily for pretence, our authentic selves seeming illusory. How often we ignore or dismiss our own value because our insecure desire to belong has caused us to seek acceptance from others by conforming to what we think will make us popular.

We too often underestimate our worth, neglecting to understand that beneath the roles and masks lies a self as unique as a snowflake. There will never be another person on this planet like us, and by failing to honour what makes us unique, we deny the gift of the beautiful, distinctive life God has entrusted us with. God is a brilliant creator and He only makes originals. Ephesians 2:10 says we are works of art! True fulfilment comes by connecting inward, learning self-love and understanding and receiving the incredible love of God. We all have a passion – something that makes us light up inside. Maybe you’ve squashed your uniqueness for so long you struggle to find your passion and your truth.

Embracing the beauty of my uniqueness didn’t happen overnight – it has been something I’ve had to learn over the years as I have embraced the woman God created me to be. When I ceased to waste energy trying to belong or be like someone else? When I stopped envying what someone else had that I didn’t? I could then discover and embrace being my own unique self and that was life-changing. I have spent many years helping people discover their worth and one thing I know for certain. If you don’t embrace your uniqueness – you will spend your entire life striving to impossibly become someone else. And that would be a tragedy. Embrace your authenticity, learn to appreciate your uniqueness and have the courage to express and share that magnificence with the world. The world doesn’t need another dimmed light of sameness. It needs your brilliant “you” to shine!

Janine Epere

CEO Destiny Haven

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